“I once wrote that I thought the reason man was so naturally cowardly was that he felt he had no authority; and the reason he had no authority was the very nature of the way the human animal is shaped: all our meanings are built into us from the outside, from our dealings with others. This is what gives us a “self” and a superego. Our whole world of right and wrong, good and bad, our name, precisely who we are, is grafted into us; and we never feel we have authority to offer things on our own. How could we? – I argued – since we feel ourselves in many ways guilty and beholden to others, a lesser creation of theirs, indebted to them for our very birth.”

E. Becker